{"id":4498,"date":"2020-07-23T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-07-23T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.canterbury.ac.uk\/staffdevelopment\/?p=4498"},"modified":"2020-07-23T09:33:15","modified_gmt":"2020-07-23T08:33:15","slug":"assert-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.canterbury.ac.uk\/staffdevelopment\/assert-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Assert Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Everyone has value. We should all feel that our contributions, ideas and suggestions have been heard. But, in order for this to happen, we need to speak up &#8211; to be confident and communicate clearly. We need to be assertive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;No.&#8217; That can feel like a hard word to say. We&#8217;re sometimes afraid of being seen as unwilling or reluctant, aren&#8217;t we? In the moment, it can be hard to find the right way to form the right words. What if people take it the wrong way? What if there is a confrontation? So it can sometimes feel easier to say &#8216;yes&#8217; instead. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If, like me, you are a &#8216;<a title=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/gb\/blog\/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do\/201708\/10-signs-youre-people-pleaser\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/gb\/blog\/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do\/201708\/10-signs-youre-people-pleaser\">people-pleaser<\/a>&#8216;, being assertive can feel like a real challenge. But it is worth the time and effort to try to learn because, although admirable, trying to please others and always saying &#8216;yes&#8217; can be a detriment to your wellbeing. For example, you may find yourself so consumed with trying to help others that your workload becomes unmanageable. So, saying &#8216;no&#8217; is sometimes necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Assertiveness is often confused with aggressive behaviour. But you can be assertive without being argumentative or obstructive. Being assertive is also not just saying &#8216;no&#8217; all the time. It&#8217;s about recognising your boundaries and communicating those in an appropriate and reasonable way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s also not about being &#8216;bossy&#8217; or overpowering others with your presence. Assertiveness helps you communicate effectively and speak up, while still being professional and respectful of others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is an essential skill to learn for your own self-worth, but it might feel impossible to learn and apply. But like anything, you need to practice it in order to master. The good news is we have just launched a new, short (15-minute) e-learning module to help you learn this vital skill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To enrol on the new &#8216;Assert Yourself&#8217; module:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Visit the <a title=\"https:\/\/cccu.canterbury.ac.uk\/hr-and-od\/organisational-and-people-development\/e-learning.aspx\" href=\"https:\/\/cccu.canterbury.ac.uk\/hr-and-od\/organisational-and-people-development\/e-learning.aspx\">Online Learning web page<\/a>.<\/li><li>Select the &#8216;Access the e-learning portal&#8217; link.<\/li><li>Select the &#8216;Dashboard&#8217; button in the top-left and then select &#8216;Catalogue&#8217;.<\/li><li>Browse the catalogue and enrol on the &#8216;Assert Yourself&#8217; module.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>If you need any help enrolling onto the module, please do contact <a href=\"mailto:people.development@canterbury.ac.uk\">people.development@canterbury.ac.uk<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Zoe Connell, Organisational and People Development<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everyone has value. 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