{"id":1118,"date":"2019-06-19T08:00:25","date_gmt":"2019-06-19T07:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.canterbury.ac.uk\/staffdevelopment\/?p=1118"},"modified":"2019-06-14T14:53:46","modified_gmt":"2019-06-14T13:53:46","slug":"a-very-personal-reflection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.canterbury.ac.uk\/staffdevelopment\/a-very-personal-reflection\/","title":{"rendered":"A Very Personal Reflection"},"content":{"rendered":"

Life throws us challenges, and it is useful to recognise how our own personal dialogue helps or hinders. In today’s blog, Helen reflects on just this:<\/em><\/p>\n

Wellbeing is a tricky concept, isn\u2019t it? It\u2019s difficult to get a single meaningful definition, and generally that\u2019s because it means different things to each of us. One person\u2019s good day is another person\u2019s bad day, and we all have our own goals and priorities. I live with chronic health issues, so for me, if I can manage myself well enough to have a day without pain, that\u2019s a success.<\/p>\n

There are two main things I\u2019ve learned which have really helped my personal wellbeing.<\/p>\n

One is to note the tone of my inner voice. My natural tendency is to be very self-critical and to always assume the worst of others\u2019 intentions. When I was younger I thought that being critical would push me and help me to get better \u2013 it didn\u2019t. Speaking to yourself in the way you would speak to a friend, with kindness and compassion, is a far healthier and happier habit.<\/p>\n

The other is to recognise my own limits, and not compare myself to others. It is so easy to think about all the things you \u2018should\u2019 be doing or are \u2018supposed\u2019 to be, and I am excellent at negatively judging myself against unattainable standards. It\u2019s great to have goals, but they need to be realistic. As much as I might like the idea, I\u2019m not going to be climbing mountains or running marathons on a weekend, and I simply don\u2019t have enough energy for all the hobbies I\u2019d like to have. I\u2019ll be honest, sometimes it\u2019s difficult to be okay with that. In the end though, you have to be fair to yourself.<\/p>\n

Helen Hogg, HR Advisor<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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